About me

 

To answer this question, it’s probably best that I share with you a defining moment, and a resulting “compelling story”, that brought me to where I am today – guiding people like you on exactly what to do to truly love yourself, embrace your own power and work and ultimately gain the relationship of your dreams and live a spiritual life that works for you and out in the world.

 
 
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During this time, I became absolutely obsessed with empowering women to make choices and not settle for less. Listen, we all know that anyone can get married, and if you don’t know that you are fooling yourself.

The reality is that most of you believe that you can’t get married, that there is something fundamentally wrong with you that you are still single. Time and time again when I talk to my clients, as soon as I scratch under the surface, we find that well, yeah there have been men who want to be with us, but that these men just didn’t thrill us.  

The reason that you are here is because you want a BIG amazing, fulfilling life partnership. Not some run of the mill marriage that will fail in 5 years but an epic LOVE!

 
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But I digress :) - by 2003 I had been in the same relationship over and over again. I finally had to accept that maybe, just maybe there was something that I was doing and it wasn’t that “all men can’t be trusted” or “there are no good men out there”. I made the commitment to truly look at my side of the street, to see where I was making choices and creating the experience that I was having. 

Life is simply feedback.

 

If you are having horrible relationships over and over again…

it’s YOU! 

That is the good and the bad of it, I know that it can be a hard pill to swallow, but as soon as it goes down you will see that you will get enormous freedom and POWER to now do something about it!
 

I had years of relationships with unavailable men where I felt I was reliving my relationship with my unavailable father.

I was willing to be in relationship that allowed the other person to dictate its parameters regardless of my needs…until I wasn’t. I had an ex-boyfriend who I played the cat and mouse game with for years. I was in a cycle of being with men that simply wanted me to save them. I was messing with men that were taking up my time, space and energy.

I spent my 30’s going to weddings and baby showers and crying in the bathroom thinking “Why is this not ME.”  I loathed weddings, specifically the part where they ostracize single ladies and have them dive for flowers to gain the attraction of other men.

No one could see me for the woman I wanted to be seen as. I was horrified that I couldn’t figure this out. I felt deep shame and abandonment that I couldn’t get this partnership thing right. I wanted someone to equitably care for me in a way that honored my true spirit.

 
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At this junction, I took all of the men that I had dated and constructed this profile - they were emotionally unavailable, charismatic, they LOVED me.

I was their best friend, their best pal - their go-to lady.

They just didn’t want to commit to me, they just didn’t want to Marry me. I was always off balance, I always felt that our connection was tenuous, like I was one misstep away from them taking their “love” away. They wanted me in the space of doing what THEY wanted. They never SHOWED up for me and certainly never showed up to meet my family and friends.

They never wanted a relationship with me and would periodically bail. 

 
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IN this pattern I always felt unworthy.

I thought there was some game or ploy that I had to convince them that I was THE ONE. I was never honest with my friends. I took total responsibility for these men and who they were. I was 70-pounds heavier at this time and I would convince myself that once I lost the weight THEN they would love me.

And once the weight was gone, I continued to have the exact same experience. I was devastated. In sitting down and doing the work, I realized that my Father was at the root of a lot of my challenges in relationship. I made a decision when I was 5-years old that I needed to dance my way into my Father’s attention and he would love me.

I learned my father loved me but he didn’t know how to show it. I was an amazing child and my Father simply couldn’t love me the way I desired.

I got more fearful about being 60 and doing the same thing over and over again and was afraid I would look back on my life and have never had what I wanted! 

 
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I decided to take RADICAL responsibility.

I needed to shed this deep belief that if a man really saw who I was that he wouldn’t love me. I couldn’t tell you where it came from, but I believed that if you pulled back the curtain of my life, that you would find something fundamentally wrong with me.
 

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I remember meeting Kap, my husband, shortly after ending what I knew was my last go at fixing and healing emotionally wounded men.

It was simply EASY with Kap.

He was different than other men. When we were together time flew past.

We spoke, we connected and I knew it - I finally had found a man that wanted the same life as me.

I realized these other men before him were not in love with me and it wasn’t about me.

They didn’t want commitment, they were emotional misfits. 

It was CONFIRMED- I didn’t need to change who I was IN ANY WAY other than to love myself more deeply.


 
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When love and connection is RIGHT, it’s simply EASY! It doesn’t mean there aren’t fears or insecurities - instead we find ourselves working through and showing up to undo the negative patterns of past relationships.

When I thought about my son prior to his birth, I knew I had given him the best Father he could have in the world.

Imagine if when you date a man, you thought about if he would be a great father to your child. What a different bar that is. I had gotten SO crystal clear for what I was looking for and I had it checked - getting super clear on what’s not working and replacing with elements of honoring your deepest desires in a partner is exactly what true partnership looks like.
 

Here’s the key, friends - the desire for a relationship is the way the universe gets you to do the Spiritual Growth you need to do.

You wouldn’t get a bigger God, a deeper faith, or a betterment of yourself without the squeeze space of being stuck. We get these desires so that we will take the next spiritual steps!  

When you SHOW UP for yourself and do the work, you affirm your value, worth and desires with the universe.

 

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Since then, I’ve worked with Thousands of private clients, spoken in front of countless groups: I married the man of my dreams, and have lived my dream of having a wonderful husband who truly is my partner in every way - and I have created Soulmate Solutions, a series of EXACT steps to go from being dateless and alone to have the relationship of your dreams.

This is a 90-day program boot camp unlike any you have ever experienced, with my full support and accountability to help you meet, date available quality men, and have fun doing it!

Together we will go through exactly what has been holding you back all these years. You will get clear on why you don’t have the relationship of your dreams.

 

 

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Together we will go through exactly what has been holding you back all these years. You will get clear on why you don’t have the relationship of your dreams. If you are stuck attracting the same man over and over again or even if you haven’t had a date in YEARS I can help.

 

You’ll also get the tools and proven systems you need to ROCK it out and a recipe to be able to have a date whenever you want (with amazing quality men). You’ll start to feel confident and comfortable talking to men, dating and ENJOYING it, without feeling sleezy or having to lose 20 lbs.

You will see how you are perfect just the way you are!

With the solid tools and support, you will know how to handle fear of rejection, unworthiness and feeling that you are not good enough.

You will have the confidence that you have always wanted whenever you are dating!

Who I work with!

I work with women just like you who:

·     Haven’t had a date in 5 years and don’t know where to get one

·     Want to be married and in a quality relationship yet they are always dating duds or going back to the same emotionally unavailable man

·     Fear that there is something wrong with them that they are still single (there isn’t!)

·     Don’t know how to date or where to find quality men

·     Don’t feel confident about themselves

·     Feel exhausted in the thought of dating  

·     Are READY to finally have the relationship that they have always wanted and are willing to take responsibility for exactly how their life is today.


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So why work with me?

Although I will absolutely talk about online dating or how you present yourself, I work on the inner and outer principals of relationship and look at your dating history and what you are looking for from an organic and spiritual perspective.

What that means to you is that you get a wise-sage-meets-kick-butt authentic Relationship Expert. I am also very spiritual and I don’t pretend to hide it either. You will also get a straight to the point and honest answer from me.

 

I will always give you the most compassionate kick in the butt that you may need.

 

I’m concerned with how to get you to the relationship that you have always wanted, how to have the confidence and to really know your value and worth so that you can date easily and effortlessly, and so that your Perfect partner can find you. You may not like what I have to tell you- but you can be sure I will always tell you the truth. The truth about what’s standing in the way of the relationship of your dreams and how to get rid of it FAST so that you can start getting results in record time (and I thrown in a healthy dose of humor and inspiration, which always helps!)

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The Soulmate Solutions programs were created for people who are absolutely excited and dead serious about having the relationship of their dreams and doing so by being authentically themselves and trusting in a higher power to guide them– it means not running around all day long, beating yourself up anymore saying: “there are no good men out there or all the good men are taken.”

I created Soulmate Solutions for you to give you all the tools that you need to not only date quality men, but to fall in love, and have the relationship that is perfect for YOU - not perfect for everyone, but for YOU. 

 

 

You will know how to spot the red flags immediately, when to leave a relationship and when to give it some more time. 

Working with me, you will be able to flirt (YES YOU) with ease, the way that it is comfortable for you. You will be so crystal clear on your wants and needs that you can communicate that with ease! 

Being a serial bad dater myself, I’m known to work best with other women who were successful, happy but couldn’t figure out how to find the man of my dreams. I work with those who are committed to what they want no matter what, who are super-ready to get going and just want to know exactly what steps to take to finally have the relationship that they have always wanted. My clients often tell me – “just tell me what to do and I’ll do it!” Consider what you’ll do with me to be a high-octane crash course on everything you need to know to not only date but be with the man of your dreams! You will be expected to take serious and consistent action. 

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Please know I’m very selective in who I work with and I cherry-pick my clients, choosing to (gently) turn away people who aren’t suited for my programs and won’t get the results for which they would have signed up for. (It wouldn’t be fair to them.)

The Soulmate Solutions programs are NOT for those who have no money coming in and are absolutely, financially desperate, at least not right away.

It’s been my experience that people in financial crisis do not trust the recommendations I give them and do not do the work (probably because they spend so much time worrying about where they are going to get next month’s rent check or mortgage payment.) If you fall within this category, it’s absolutely OK. We’ve all been in times of financial crisis at one point or another. Do yourself (3) favors:

  1. Get some money coming in with a full-time or part-time job at the very least, and then call me. This will take the edge off and provide a little more peace of mind. Mostly, it will de-clutter your mind enough to focus on your Soulmate Solutions assignments and the BIG picture. Once your homelife is feeling safe and secure than you can start to branch out on your romantic needs
  2. Join me in my Free Facebook group Spiritual Journey to Your Soulmate - I do tons of free trainings and I am there to answer your questions and will get you started towards your goals until you’re ready to work with me one-on-one.
 (I’m in no rush and will be here when you need me.) 

(I’m in no rush and will be here when you need me.) 

Other types of personalities I won’t work with (without exception) are the whiner or the chronic skeptic, as well as individuals who consistently make excuses for not getting their assignments done or challenging every aspect of the program. If you are one of these people, I gently and respectfully ask that you not call and I hope you understand why. We’ll probably just not work well together and I wouldn’t want you to waste your time or money.

Is that fair? 


What exactly is Soulmate Solutions and what does it include?

Soulmate Solutions begins with understanding your true value, where your power really comes from, how to manifest what you want (including the relationship of your dreams), creating powerful intentions that get you results as well as the outer pieces to know exactly how to get out there and meet quality men who are a good fit for YOU - not just anyone, but YOU!

 

Here’s what the System gets you to do:

  1. First we get grounded in your mindset- the good and the bad of it is that you are having the relationships that you THINK you deserve. The great part about it is that means that you have the POWER to change the relationships that you are currently having-even if you are having none. We will go deep into your ideas about yourself, your beliefs about what you can have, and I will teach you EXACTLY how to change it so that you can have what you really want!
  2. Next, we dive into your past- I know, no one wants to do the digging, yet dig we must. We need to see what YOUR patterns are, where are YOU are going astray. I promise you that it isn’t the men’s fault, not all men cheat, etc. There are amazing men out there who are searching for a long lasting, loving relationship and your job is to open to those men. You get to have a wonderful man, who adores you and who you feel safe with that you ALSO want to rip his clothes off. I see it time and time again!
  3. Create not only your ideal man but also your NOT-ideal man. It is more important to learn how to say No to what you don’t want so that you have room to say YES to what you do. The Universe is listening and it is watching your actions, not your intentions. It is time to clear the decks, get rid of all the things that are blocking you from love.
  4. We will dive again deep into your own worth! You will know all the amazing, beautiful, unique things that you bring to the table. You are a perfect, amazing woman and the world needs you to be authentically you! We work together to unearth all that is perfectly you!
  5. Dating, dating oh yes dating! Together we will create a plan of where YOUR man is. Exactly how to find the type of man that YOU are looking for not what all women want. You will have a personalized plan where you get to date in a way that is comfortable for YOU. You will have to go outside your comfort zone for sure (that is where all the success is) but you won’t have to go boozing it up all night if that isn’t your thing!
  6. Radical Honesty and Radical Responsibility! It is time to really get clear and honest about why and how you are in the place that you are! You are not a victim of your life and therefore you have all the power to change it and get exactly what you want.
  7. What to say on dates ad how to do so, not only comfortably, but also authentically and with JOY! I promise you will come to a place where you can’t remember a time that you didn’t date easily and effortlessly. It’s time to get out there!
  8. Rejection, rejection, rejection. How to get comfortable saying no to what you don’t want as well as being okay when a date doesn’t work out. The power in no longer being afraid of having a man not want you, is priceless!

 

Now I know what you are asking…does it really work?

 

Yes! The result of our work is an approach to shifting your mindset and actionable items that will get you exactly the relationship that you have always wanted. 

—also Read what others are saying here!

What results can I expect?

 

You can expect to: 

•      Date with confidence and ease

•      Know deeply your own worth

•      Attract quality men who are YOUR ideal type

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•      Have the relationship you have always dreamed about

•      Create the family and partnership that others envy

•      Date authentically without manipulation

•      Feel your confidence SOAR

•      Have big breakthroughs and ah ha moments

•      Have dating anxiety dissipate and peace and calm set in 

•      Learn how to self-nurture

•      Feel empowered and excited about your future

•      Watch your best life unfold with EASE

•      End the drama cycles and patterns

•      End the dating cycle and find your ideal partner!

•      Gain unshakeable confidence in yourself – (a lot of my clients tell me that is worth the investment alone).

 

Can I contact some of your former clients to see what it’s like to work with you?

Yes, I encourage you to!

Please go to the Client Testimonials page and read all of them. See which ones you feel drawn to, either because the person has gotten the results you want to get too, or perhaps because that person is in a similar situation. Then feel free to email or call them and ask what they got from working with me and my programs.

 

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How quickly can I expect results?        

That depends on how quickly you can make those inner shifts.

Some clients are ready to go and meet the man of their dreamsin a very short time frame (my last client did after our 3rdcall), sometimes even a few weeks while others have a bit more work to do first. It also depends on where you are at right now and how much you are willing to put yourself out there. The man of your dreams is waiting for you and searching for you as we speak. Some of my clients, need to get out of bad relationships first, others just simply need to open themselves up to what is right in front of them. 

 

 

How can I guarantee myself that I will get to finally meet my ideal man in record time?

 

Do all of your homework.

Be totally committed to your success. Understand that this is a process, a proven one, that works if you take action and implement all of the steps. All my clients who have diligently applied every step of Soulmate Solutions have successfully learned how to date with ease and joy. My clients see the red flags immediately so that they don’t waste time on duds, have the confidence to go after what they want in much less time than they would have on their own, AND have met the man they want to spend the rest of their lives with.

Leslie Seidel, based on everything I’ve read and heard about you, I know you’re the one I want to learn from. What are my options for getting started with you?

Congratulations on making a decision for success!

I’m happy to work with you to achieve your business goals… the best way to work with me is in my 90-day Soulmate’s Solutions! Here’s some of the results you can expect... 

 

•      Date with confidence and ease

•      Anxiety dissipates and peace and calm sets in

•      Know deeply your own worth

•      Attract quality men who are YOUR ideal type

•      Reaching for your passions in life- not just with your ideal partner but everywhere

•      Have the relationship you have always dreamed about

•      Create the family and partnership that others envy

•      Date authentically without manipulation

•      Feel your confidence SOAR

•      Create healthy boundaries Easily!

•      Have big breakthroughs and ah ha moments

•      Have dating anxiety dissipate and peace and calm set in 

•      Learn how to self-nurture

•      Find your happiness

•      Feel empowered and excited about your future

•      Fall back in love with yourself

•      Watch your best life unfold with EASE

•      End the drama cycles and patterns

•      End the dating cycle and find your ideal partner!

•      Gain unshakeable confidence in yourself – (a lot of my clients tell me that is worth the investment alone).

OK, I’m ready to do this for myself, but I have a couple of additional questions. Can I call you?
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Good, sounds like you’re ready to be pulled into your future!

 

Yes, if you have a couple of questions, just email me at info@coachleslie.com or set up a time to chat here (Scheduling link) and I’ll be happy to walk you through the different options to see which one will be the very best for you. I can’t wait to see you succeed and am honored to be the one to help you.

Warmly,

Coach Leslie

 

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